Glennon Doyle is a job mannequin to so many ladies. She’s daring, assured & unapologetically herself.

The first e book of hers that I learn was Love Warrior. She shares her wrestle with bulimia, alcoholism & discovering out about her husband’s infidelities. Subsequent up, I learn Untamed, the bestseller that you simply’ve in all probability heard all about. Then, to carry it full circle ( & as a result of I simply wanted extra Glennon ) I learn Carry On, Warrior.

By way of Instagram, I reached out to her & proposed that Michael & I fly to Naples, Florida to interview her for The Skinny Confidential HIM & HER podcast. We booked the journey & it was so price it to interview her in individual. That is one in all my FAVORITE EPISODES, a lot in order that I listened to my very own podcast AGAIN. Undoubtedly to not hear the sound of my very own voice, however to absorb much more Glennon.

There are such a lot of takeaways on this episode however I wished to share my prime 5 with you. After studying this submit you’ll wish to go pay attention, & you’ll fucking adore it. I promise.

Not solely is Glennon Doyle a finest promoting creator, she is an activist & thought chief who has raised over $25 million for girls, youngsters & households in disaster.

With that, let’s get to Glennon’s phrases of knowledge.

Top 5 Takeaways From Interviewing Glennon Doyle:

♡ We’re conditioned for internalized misogyny.

The extra highly effective, completely happy & profitable a person turns into, the extra individuals like & belief him. The extra highly effective, completely happy & profitable a lady turns into, the much less individuals like her & belief her.

Glennon began noticing that individuals would inform her at talking occasions that they discovered it laborious to narrate to her when she stopped speaking about dependancy, bulimia & her hardships. When her focus went to Untamed, being in a contented marriage & being profitable, individuals overtly instructed her they couldn’t relate to her.

Society is conditioned to need a lady to be unsure, humble, & quiet. When a girls steps out of these traits, it makes us uncomfortable. After we see these traits in a person it additionally makes us uncomfortable as a result of we’re conditioned to suppose a person ought to be a ‘man.’

Glennon even talks about how she falls into this unconscious, knee-jerk response.

♡ Social media is a good way to look at & change your ideas.

It’s a lot simpler to dismiss or spew hate on social media than it’s in actual life. Glennon says social media is usually a useful gizmo for observing your ideas. I feel that is such tip to assist change our thought course of, particularly on the subject of a lady you ‘simply don’t like, however don’t know why.’ As a result of proper?

Have you ever ever seen an excellent sizzling lady, or an excellent assured lady & earlier than you’ll be able to even give it some thought you discover your self simply not liking her however you don’t know why??? ‘There’s simply one thing about her.’ That is our internalized misogyny – the ‘knee-jerk’ response Glennon talks about. However the very best factor about that is that we are able to change it.

So subsequent time you’re scrolling your feed & you suppose a thought just like the above, STOP, ask your self WHY??? Why does it irk or trouble me that this lady was tremendous into her nails/hair/physique/bikini/outfit so wished to take an image & share it?

♡ Our lives are in fixed response mode.

That is one in all my favourite elements since you may need heard me say earlier than that it’s so necessary ( for me ) to create space to create. If I spent my entire day answering emails & messages I might be always engaged on different individuals’s to-do lists.

Personally, I relate to this a lot. That is the primary time in historical past that individuals can get ahold of different individuals always, on a regular basis. Glennon describes what this looks like so completely within the podcast. At any time of time, it doesn’t matter what you’re doing, somebody can mainly textual content you, name you, e-mail you, DM you & demand one thing of you. And similar to that somebody has issued you an IOU.

All of us should be pondering extra about what WE wish to do & create with our days. Typically it’s a must to disappoint different individuals to not disappoint your self, which we get into far more within the episode.

♡ LISTEN.

The talent of listening is so necessary, particularly proper now in 2020. As a former college trainer, Glennon says she will’t consider a extra necessary human attribute than listening.

Individuals don’t wish to be fastened, they don’t need recommendation, they don’t need individuals to narrate to them, they simply want a witness. It’s laborious to chew our tongues & simply LISTEN.

Our alternative to truly take heed to somebody comes EVERY SINGLE TIME somebody talks to us. Cease ready in your flip to speak, get snug with pauses & silence, cease planning what you’re going to say when the opposite individual stops speaking. Permit it to occur.

♡ Social constructs turn out to be cages.

These constructs could be so many issues: gender, faith, sexuality, politics, nationality, and many others. An instance of this may be a bit of boy taking part in on the playground in school begins who begins crying, so the others begin attacking as a result of he’s breaking out of his ‘cage.’

Most individuals who determine with these social constructs sacrifice plenty of themselves for cover from the others of their group. It’s primarily abandoning your self to not abandon your sense of belonging, whether or not that’s in your loved ones, faith, pal group- you get it.

♡ In case you think about extra for your self, then possibly you have been made for extra.

We now have one life & it’s so quick. Glennon goes into what her relationship was like along with her husband after he cheated, however this recommendation doesn’t solely apply to relationships. It may very well be your job, your community-whatever.

If in case you have a need or want for extra from any facet of your life, it’s okay. It doesn’t imply you’re ungrateful ( which girls are particularly conditioned to really feel if so ). However you don’t get what you need or want with out SHARING it. It’s essential communicate up & say what you need, in any other case how does your vital different or employer know?

Lots of the time we’re so afraid of the response & that will probably be the ‘catalyst to the top’ ( as Glennon places it ), that we don’t communicate as much as dwell the life that we wish.

Make sure you observe @glennondoyle on Instagram. Her & her spouse Abby Wambach  ( Olympic medalist ) actually are simply the cutest. Make sure you pay attention till the top as a result of Glennon has some killer e book recs, one which I’m already studying & loving.

Have you ever learn Glennon’s books?

x, lauryn

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