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12 Great Reader Comments on Sex

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12 Great Reader Comments on Sex
great sex tips from women

great sex tips from women

With regards to intercourse, we’ve talked about recommendation, professional suggestions, assist and enjoyable tales. And through the years, we’ve collected some priceless reader feedback. Listed below are some favorites…

On saying what you need:

“I’m a part of nearly all of ladies who can’t orgasm from penetration alone. Whereas it doesn’t trouble me, some previous companions couldn’t perceive (as a result of depictions of intercourse in movies the place the couple magically orgasm concurrently from missionary) and took it very personally, a lot in order that I felt pressured to faux orgasms once I was youthful. These days I say ‘I really like intercourse with you and it feels unbelievable, however like most ladies, I can’t orgasm simply from penetration. It’s like I can climb 70% of the way in which up the mountain and the view continues to be actually good, however I want one thing else to get me to the summit.’ Then I simply request that he goes down on me earlier than or after, or makes use of his arms or a vibrator for clitoral stimulation throughout intercourse.” — Carol

On placing your associate first:

“As a girl sleeping with ladies, usually one individual is pleasuring the opposite after which we change, versus simultaneous genital stimulation. You’ll be able to focus on making your associate really feel good, focusing on solely them with out worrying about your individual pleasure. Then when it’s your flip, you get to really feel worshiped. It’s an ideal system.” — Jenna

On the magic of toys:

“I bought my first vibrator years in the past due to a CoJ publish and it actually modified my life. At 40, I had by no means (NEVER) had an orgasm, on my own or with a associate, and now I do 99% of the time. I discovered the way to have one with or with out toys. If you’re studying this and contemplating getting one, please attempt! And due to Joanna for these essential, life-changing conversations!” — Sarah

“A enjoyable factor my associate and I’ve completed is give one another a ‘intercourse stocking’ for Christmas. We fill one another’s stockings with issues like truth-or-dare video games, lube, therapeutic massage oils, lingerie and some new toys. It’s foolish and attractive and encourages our exploration of one another. The stockings all the time embody a gadget that we’ve been interested in and presenting this manner makes it enjoyable and never taboo. Evidently, I all the time sit up for the vacations.” — Dean

On turn-ons:

“In school, my boyfriend was sitting throughout the room, studying a newspaper together with his legs crossed, however crossed the way in which you’d usually affiliate with a girl. My good friend leaned in to me and stated, ‘Have a look at him. Look how he’s sitting. He’s so attractive.’ I used to be floored, however she was proper. Eighteen years and three kids later, he by no means feels the necessity to carry out masculinity. That safety is sexier than a manspread any day.” — Mimi

“When my lovely spouse:
— wears an outfit that I can inform she feels good in/loved styling
— wraps her hair in a towel-twist after washing it
— is already in mattress, after which I get in mattress, and he or she’s SO WARM
— reflexively provides me her hand to carry onto if we’re taking place a steep step
— will get a a lot deeper tan on her legs than the remainder of her physique in summer time
She’s additionally tall (which I discover loopy loopy scorching) and I simply can’t get sufficient of her.” — Chiara

On feeling attractive:

“After an oophorectomy and anti-depressants, my intercourse drive was non-existent. I requested my gyno what to do and he or she requested me what a few of my favourite actions had been — I instantly stated studying. So, she urged studying erotic fiction by Anais Nin. Increase! I received’t say I’m all the way in which again but, however it’s coming (!) slowly.” — Bobby

“Learn some romantic novels. I began with the Bridgerton books in 2021 after seeing the collection and have since learn 80 romantic novels, that are PERFECT for the time we’re dwelling in. They’re type of ridiculous, some are comical, all are scorching, AND each story ends in fortunately ever after. I’d begin with Julia Quinn after which transfer on to Lisa Kleypas, whom I really like. I used to look down upon romance novels and might’t consider I wasted a lot time considering every part I learn needed to be overtly mental or self-improving (I used to be truly shocked how a lot historic data and analysis goes into these, btw!).” — Erika

“I’d extremely advocate investing the time and assets find some garments you’re keen on that match! I assumed I used to be sad due to the way in which my physique had modified, when actually I used to be actually simply bodily and socially uncomfortable as a result of my pants had been too tight. Your physique is nice the way in which it’s, it should change over the course of your life, and you might be worthy of feeling and looking good irrespective of your dimension.” — Arianne

On rewriting the pleasure narrative:

“I perceive the need for a wholesome intercourse drive. However I additionally suppose it’s okay to present ourselves permission to not need intercourse as usually as we suppose we should always. I used to be getting fairly down on myself for wanting intercourse solely across the time I’m ovulating, and I felt ashamed as a result of it didn’t look like sufficient. Then it dawned on me how extremely pure and regular that’s. Possibly that’s how feminine animals are within the wild! I began embracing my pure rhythm, and now I not really feel like there may be something incorrect with me.” — C.S.

“I’m demisexual, so I don’t expertise sexual attraction to somebody till we’ve shaped a deep emotional connection. And even then, typically no cube! I nonetheless expertise visible attraction (forearms and rolled shirt cuffs, a pleasant smile, floppy hair) and emotional attraction (kindness, humor, intelligence), however these issues by no means make me wish to *have intercourse* with the individual. It’s so attention-grabbing how we relate these points of interest with the language ‘turn-ons,’ which is a language of intercourse, however the points of interest themselves will not be often sexual in any respect. It’s a semantics tangle I’d wish to poke at!” — R.S.

On a humorous (however spot-on) realization:

“Generally, while you’re in a relationship, intercourse is sort of a steak dinner. Different occasions it’s a scorching canine. Each will be be scrumptious.” — Natalie

What would you add? We’d love to listen to…

P.S. 12 extra reader feedback on intercourse and first kiss tales.

(Photograph by Stocksy/Lucas Ottone.)

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